How exactly did we get here?


We’re six months in to the pandemic. I guess we’re making progress?!?! Some days I wonder. And with all this “downtime” I find myself wondering and contemplating many of “life’s” mysteries.

Last week, I was asked by a young boy, “Patti, at what age did you become an evolutionist?” Huh? When did I become what? Wow, I had never thought about evolution as a “belief” but I guess technically it is. I paused and thought carefully before answering. I did not want to offend him as he and his family do not believe in evolution.

“Well,” I said. ” I don’t think there was a day that I became one. I guess it was something that I was brought up with and always accepted. In school we learned about how the world has changed and evolved over the millions of years; the different phases of the world’s history, it’s topography, it’s inhabitants and how things have come to be what they are now.”

I watched his face intently as I spoke and I could see that his eyes were starting to glaze over.

“Think about some of the things you have seen in a museum. Have you seen a dinosaur skeleton?”

“I’ve never been to a museum.” He replied. Oh, dear, I thought. I need to tread lightly.

“We are always evolving.” I said. “Hundreds of years ago, our great great grandparents were a lot shorter than we are today. They didn’t have access to the kinds of fresh foods that we can get readily now. They generally didn’t live as long as they had no vaccines for diseases that we have eradicated now. They didn’t have electricity. They certainly didn’t have the luxuries that we enjoy now ( I knew how much he loved watching videos) and they didn’t have access to information that we can easily “Google” when we want to know something.”

He listened, nodded his head and then changed the subject. This young man’s question to me, our conversation and my “half ass” answer stuck with me. Given the state of the world right now, are we still evolving or are we in a holding pattern?! We’ve been stricken with a global pandemic that has not only devastated the population with illness and death, but has “created” or at least emphasized, the divisiveness that runs rampant everywhere. Covid-19 has now evolved into Hatred 2020 where we battle each other over whether or not we have the “right to choose” not to wear masks!  Whether millions of people should be evicted from their homes because they can’t make rent. Where political parties waste time arguing over what “relief” they will provide while their citizens are out of work, can’t put food on the table and don’t know if its safe to send their children to school. Where “leaders” use their platform for their own benefit, forgetting why they were elected to begin with. Is this what the world has come to? Is this how we have “evolved”?

When I was diagnosed with cancer, I asked myself why? Why did this happen? How did this happen? Would I survive? What would happen to my family, my friends, my business if I didn’t? The fear of the “unknown” was overwhelming at times. The lack of control that I felt, having to put my faith in others to see me through this disease was frightening. Like Covid-19, cancer has no “cure”; no vaccine. It can strike anyone, at any age. It doesn’t care if you are young or old; male or female; black or white; rich or poor. It will turn your life upside down and it could kill you. But at least cancer isn’t contagious!!!!

Since March, when we were all told to shelter in place, I have had some pretty rough days. The isolation, loneliness and fear that I have suffered with cancer is ever present with Covid-19. The uncertainty of the future and the the devastation of this pandemic gives me sleepless nights. What’s next? Are we moving forward with a plan to see this through? After all, there will be a second wave sooner than later. Will we ever fully recover from this? Will we ever truly come together as one to support each other or will will remain divided? No matter what your beliefs are as to how this world was created, it is our responsibility to the planet and each other to insure we take care of it. It is our responsibility to keep it and each other safe. We are all in this together. Will we ever evolve into a world where we love, support and respect each other? A world where kindness and acceptance are the norm and not the exception? Will we ever evolve into a world where all lives matter?


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President of As You Like It Marketing & Communications Inc. Award winning speaker and author. Breast cancer fighter and blogger. I’m sharing my journey…the good, the bad and the ugly. Hoping to help anyone else that has been touched by breast cancer be it you or someone you know or love.

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